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Category Archives: Tending
All love is at first sight…
… And if you don’t love someone, you haven’t seen them (no matter how many times you’ve looked at them). Does these two ideas sound radical and even dangerous? Try the one-way love experiment Next time someone is talking to you, … Continue reading
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How to love
“I am full of hate. Will you please teach me how to love?” In Think on These Things, a school child asks J. Krishnamurti the above question. His answer shocked me: “No one can teach you how to love. If … Continue reading
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How to make yourself thin
There are people in whom the ineffable mysteriousness of life feels palpable. They are like thin places — very little seems to separate the sacred from the ordinary. It’s right. there. Of course thin people are just as likely to … Continue reading
Posted in Favorites, Tending, Veil Betweeen Sacred and Mundane
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what they’re NOT
Tenders and kind people aren’t: Sweet. Or even nice, exactly. They don’t subscribe to anything goes. They aren’t kidding. Often they don’t seem personal — they don’t worry about what happens to you. They don’t have the persona — gestures, … Continue reading
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Making thin places
A sunshine soaked classroom, a windowless office, a tiny, tucked away bar. This month I’ve been so incredibly lucky to walk into three places — three unlikely places — and find myself in the palpable ineffable. These places are marked … Continue reading
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Kind friends
I have been observing the kind. As in, people being kind to people. Here’s what I’m seeing. Somehow they are ultra-interconnected with others yet totally of themselves at the same time. They are not attacking, obviously, but even more importantly, … Continue reading
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Ranch Zen
“Go outside or get a drink of water.” My daughter once came home from a birthday sleep-over with this wisdom — the best of all party favors. Her friend was a ranch kid, and the rancher Dad happened by a … Continue reading
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Betsy Pearson 