Category Archives: Desire

“If I were truly to be myself, I would break my family’s heart.”*

~ Someone I know has been side-railed by the pain of someone they love. Indeed everyone I’ve ever known has at some point frozen up because they didn’t want to hurt someone else. I have too. (Those of you who know me are whispering “understatement…”) It’s because … Continue reading

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Why don’t I do what I REALLY DO want to do?

I unabashedly adore my “Leaning Into What You Really Want” worksheet because when I want something, this technique works with magical-feeling ease. Except when it doesn’t work at all. I used to believe that those instances meant I was “self-sabotaging” or that I didn’t REALLY … Continue reading

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How to Stop Wanting Something

Why it almost never works when you decide to stop wanting something 1. Remember the IMP? No, not the one you met last Halloween.  I’m talking about your own mental Ironic Monitoring Process which dictates that your mind be on the lookout for whatever you want to … Continue reading

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My Favorite Way of Looking at Your Desire

Seeing people hyper-accelerate into what they want is one of my greatest thrills — not only does it make them happy, but it always ends up improving the world for all of us. So please… Have fun with this worksheet, … Continue reading

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Leaning in and letting go (hint: they’re the same thing)

If you can’t let go of wanting something you’re not getting, lean right on in and examine why you want it and.. you’ll see. (I know you’re skeptical, but trying to talk yourself out of it isn’t working is it? … Continue reading

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